You've answered, No, Nothing.. meaning there is absolutely no action that you could take to physically change your current circumstance.. or you may have chosen this option because even though there is something you could do, you just aren't ready to do it..but you also would love a solution or a way to cope with your present circumstance....
Regardless of why you chose this answer, you need a solution to cope with your situation.
It is time for mental reprogramming. Changing your persistent thoughts and perceptions regarding this situation will go a long way to reducing your stress and increasing your happiness.
What are your consistent thoughts regarding your current circumstance and what percentange of your day do you spend thinking these thoughts about this topic?
- List your consistent and reoccurring thoughts.
- If you are feeling stuck, sad, or hopeless, its highly likely that your thoughts are negative. Is that true for you?
- Are you willing to think differently about this person and or situation?
If your answer is yes, make a list of some positive, higher quality thoughts to focus on.
If the answer is no, then you will need to work through some emotions such as anger, bitterness, blame, and resentment.
You may also need to do a self check and ask yourself if you have a victim mentality.
Am I being a victim?
Admitting to ourselves that we have a victim mentality is never a fun day. However, sometimes we subconsciously chose to stay in unhealthy situations because of some benefit we receive. This benefit could be the attention or sympathy of others. When we receive sympathy, we also receive reassurance that we are loved. We may be the type of person who needs more attention through social interaction and finding ourselves in toxic situations always manages to grab the attention of the people who love us. We may also crave the drama of it all in order to feel alive. The situation may not be healthy, but at least it's not boring. There is always some problem or situation to talk over with your friends. If you resonate with what I am saying, this doesn't make you bad or wrong. It simply means, this coping skill, or way of getting what you need, is outdated and unhealthy. You may not even be aware of your deeper needs for connection and feeling loved through social interaction and mental stimulation, but you have them. It's very normal for some types of people to need more excitement and passion in their lives. What we need to learn, is to find healthy ways for those needs to be met. One that doesn't require us to be emotionally, mentally, or even physically abused.